What got us through?

What got us through?

What got us through?

The things that helped, in the words of people who have lived through pregnancy loss. Collected by Sibyl, added to every week, shared with permission.

Sibyl is a private companion for pregnancy loss - here whenever you need answers, reassurance, or just a place to make sense of it all.

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What Got Me Through:

A friend texted me that she was thinking about me on Mother’s Day. That meant the world to me.

Melissa, the Netherlands

What Got Me Through:

Building my own spreadsheets to track my hormones gave me back a sense of control.


Darcy, US

What Got Me Through:

One friend left wine and brownies at my door. Therapy helped me finally name what I'd been through as grief.

Jennifer, US

What Got Me Through:

I marked my grief with a tattoo: three small buds that never bloomed. Finding meaning took time, but it helped me heal.


Kim, the Netherlands

What Got Me Through:

Google made everything worse. Books. Curated, calm information was what actually helped.

Molly, US

What Got Me Through:

Getting back to theater reminded me I was more than someone trying to become a mom.

Allison, US

What Got Me Through:

Little self-care routines, even just a facial, were how I reclaimed some joy.

Michelle, US