Miscarriage grief can be invisible but profound. It is natural to feel like you’ve lost someone you loved.
There is no “right” way to grieve — but there are practices that many people find supportive. Sadly, grief after pregnancy loss is often overlooked in care. That gap is exactly why we’re building Sibyl — a digital companion designed to offer gentle, accessible support.
Acknowledge the Loss
Finding ways to honor your pregnancy can help make the grief more tangible and acknowledged. Some ideas include:
Creating a keepsake box (with your test, ultrasound, or hospital bracelet)
Naming your baby
Holding a ritual or memorial
Writing a letter or keeping a journal
If journaling feels daunting, Sibyl is being built to offer guided prompts — gentle questions to help you put words to your experience when the page feels blank.
Seek Support
Support looks different for everyone. You might:
Talk with trusted friends or family
Join online or in-person support groups
Seek counseling or therapy
As one woman shared: “I told more people I miscarried than I told I was pregnant. Sharing lifted the shame.”
If you’re not ready to talk with people in your life, Sibyl will be a private, judgment-free space to share what you’re feeling, learn coping strategies, and receive validation — anytime you need it.
Care for Your Body
Grief isn’t just emotional — it’s physical. Taking care of your body can be part of healing:
Rest and nourish yourself — grief is exhausting
Try gentle movement like walking or yoga
Avoid rushing back into routines if you’re not ready
Sibyl will include features to remind you of these small acts of self-care — because sometimes, even remembering to breathe, stretch, or hydrate feels impossible.
Don’t Minimize
It’s common to downplay your pain, especially after an early loss. But grief doesn’t measure in weeks.
Early loss is still a loss
Grief doesn’t care about gestational age — your baby mattered
It’s okay to be devastated
As one doctor told her patient: “Don’t minimize your pain. Six weeks or sixteen, grief doesn’t measure in weeks.”
Coping With Triggers
After a miscarriage, reminders of pregnancy and babies seem to be everywhere — a friend’s announcement, an ad in your feed, even walking through a store. These “triggers” can bring a wave of grief when you least expect it.
They can also make healing feel less linear. One moment you may feel steady, and the next you’re overwhelmed with sadness. That doesn’t mean you’re moving backwards — it’s a normal part of grief. Healing rarely follows a straight line.
Some things that may help:
Give yourself permission to step away. It’s okay to mute social accounts, skip events, or set boundaries.
Prepare scripts. Having a gentle “I can’t be there right now” ready makes it easier to decline.
Create a grounding ritual. Some people light a candle, step outside, or place a hand on their heart when triggers arise.
Talk it through. Share with a trusted friend, counselor, or support community so you don’t hold the reaction alone.
You’re not weak for feeling triggered — you’re grieving. Over time, these moments usually soften, but it’s okay to protect your heart along the way.
Key Takeaways
Grief after miscarriage is real and valid, no matter how far along you were.
Rituals, support, and self-care can help you navigate the pain.
Healing takes time and isn’t linear — and you don’t have to rush.
Sibyl is being built to stand alongside you during that journey — combining compassion, lived experience, and clinical guidance in a digital companion designed for pregnancy loss.
💌 Want to be part of shaping Sibyl?Sign up for our beta to access early support tools and help us build something truly meaningful.
