When loss comes later in pregnancy, the emptiness can be overwhelming. You’ve already felt your baby move, seen ultrasound pictures, maybe even chosen a name. You have likely already spent months thinking and preparing for the baby’s arrival. Then, comes a silence that feels unbearable, a moment where everything changes.
The Physical and Emotional Aftermath
Late-term losses are often accompanied by deep physical reminders — milk coming in, stretch marks, postpartum bleeding. You are also going through a large hormonal shift, and are likely to be exhausted and physically unwell. This alone is already likely to affect your psychological wellbeing, so try to be graceful with yourself.
Many parents describe feeling betrayed by their bodies, or disconnected from them entirely. Especially if medical explanations of the miscarriage are unclear, some feel that their body failed them. Emotionally, the shock can make time feel suspended. You might replay moments, wondering if you missed something. You might dread the quiet of home. You might fear forgetting the sound of your baby’s name.
It is important to try to connect with your body again. You can start reconnecting through:
Grounding touch (hand on heart, slow breathing)
Gentle movement (stretching, walking)
Breathing deeply while focusing on relaxing tense areas within your body
How to Cope
Give yourself permission to grieve in the way that comes naturally to you. Some people want social support, and some want to grieve privately. There’s no “grieving correctly.” Some parents want to talk about their baby constantly; others need silence. Both are common and normal.
Create rituals of remembrance. Write a letter. Plant a tree. Keep a photograph nearby. These acts acknowledge that love continues, even in loss.
Be gentle with re-entry. Social media, pregnant friends, baby showers— all can be painful reminders. Protect yourself without guilt.
Seek trauma-informed support. Late losses can leave deep physical and emotional scars; a specialized therapist or bereavement midwife can help you begin to rebuild.
The quiet after loss isn’t empty — it’s full of everything you wished could have been said, sung, or heard. Healing is learning to carry that love differently.
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